I'm feeling this so deeply and no one "gets" me
As many of my clients know, we have three cats, and two "adopted" cats (AKA strays!). Many of the clients who come to my home office for EFT sessions know my cats by name, look forward to seeing them before/after an EFT session and don't mind in the least if one of the cats decides to use their car as a sun bed while they are in the EFT session!
They also know that my cats are my world. So when we lost one of them almost 4 weeks ago, it created a huge change in our lifestyle. Adapting to life without Mickey has been very difficult. There seems to be a massive void in our lives now. There is so much uncertainty because he did, literally, just disappear one evening.
One of the hardest parts to all of this is feeling as though I have to justify why my cats are important to me, and why this loss is significant. The reactions from different people have ranged from empathy and support to "well, it's only a cat!"
This has enabled me to delve even more deeply into how and why experiences are so different for differnt people: what is of huge significance to one person could be completely irrelevant to another. As an EFT Practitioner, my mind is always open - it has to be! - because, whilst I may not personally identify with the pain my client is experiencing, the fact THEY are identifying with that pain is more than significant.
With that in mind, I've created some phrases, which may help you to cope with change, and/or know that what you are experiencing REALLY IS DEEPLY AND COMPLETELY VALID. The fact that you are experiencing it makes it utterly valid. With your dominant hand, tap the karate chop point on the other hand while saying the following:
Even though everything is different and I'm finding it really hard to adapt, I want to accept myself anyway
Even though I'm struggling and they don't understand, I want to accept all of who I am
Even though I'm really in pain here and it doesn't seem to mean anything to them, I deserve to accept who I am and how I'm feeling.
Top of head: everything is different
Eyebrow: change is so difficult
Side of eye: I'm finding this hard
Under eye: I don't know how I'm supposed to respond to this
Under nose: I feel as though they're judging me
Chin: they don't seem to understand what I'm feeling
Collarbone: I'm in so much pain
Under arm: I'm hurting so much
Top of head: I wish they could understand
Eyebrow: does it really matter if they understand or not?
Side of eye: I'm feeling what I'm feeling
Under eye: and that is what's important
Under nose: I'm feeling hurt and confused
Chin: and I deserve to honour these feelings
Collarbone: I deserve to accept myself for feeling this way
Under arm: what I'm feeling is important for me in this moment.
Disclaimer: In tapping along to this transcript, you take full responsibility for your health and well being.
About the author: Annabel Fisher is a licensed NLP Practitioner and runs a successful EFT practice. Find relief from pain, chronic illness, fears and phobias, headaches and migraines, weight issues and more through EFT. Get your free "The Essentials of EFT Guide" plus one-hour EFT Q&A audio recording by signing up for her newsletter at: www.theefthealingcentre.com.